My Grandma

grandmaI’ve pondered the title of this post for too long and decided finally that before I stalled out again, I would just keep it very simple. Grandma would have liked it that way.

You see, she passed away today, February 17, 2010. And already she’s left a void that will never be filled. Her 90-year life was full to the brim, so while the pain is still fresh, and numbness lingers on, I wanted to tap some words down and let the world know what they missed in not knowing her.

She had a way with words, using great little faded phrases like “…for the birds” and “…bright as a dollar.” You missed out on her amazing lemon meringue pie and the scent of lavendar in her linen closet. Her home always smelled like a cross between a bakery and an English garden. My grandma was a wizard in the kitchen and an avid collector/tester of recipes. You would never leave her table hungry and every meal, she prepared with love and creativity.

Grandma loved her sports, especially football and basketball. She’d be enjoying the Winter Olympics at this very moment if she was still here. It was fun to hear her rant about how the Laker’s looked a little sloppy the night before or how shameful it was that the Rams moved away from California. She’d tell you it was better when they played at the Coliseum; it was more like a real football game environment. When she was a teen, she was a bit of a tomboy and even played baseball.

Quite the gardener, she’d show you her prized Chrysler Imperial rose bush or take you to the spot along the garage wall where she’d string twine and plant her Sweet Peas in the winter so they’d bloom heavy in the spring. Under the window in the dining room, she had a hardy gardenia plant that would share an amazing number of flowers, each boasting an intoxicating fragrance. In her backyard, she had some of the most prolific Meyer lemon and tangelo trees.  Watching her smell their rinds, you could only imagine what she’d decide to prepare with them.

No life is complete without some tough times and she witnessed some hardships. She lived through the depression and WW2 and many other conflicts, but not once would you hear her complain or gripe about times ever being hard. She beat cancer nearly 20 years ago. She outlived both her siblings and both of her husbands.

She liked musicals such as Fiddler on the Roof and enjoyed country swooner Marty Robbins. Ever hear of Bobby Goldsboro? A song called Honey would make her a little weepy, but if you asked her about Sweet City Woman, you’d get a chuckle from her. Yes, my Grandma had a great sense of humor and a quick wit.

She did so much.  She comforted, encouraged, supported, loved, laughed, doted, cried, spoiled, kissed, hugged, scolded, reminded, giggled, remembered, and worried. She was a daughter, granddaughter, sister, niece, friend, wife, sister-in-law, grandmother, aunt, great-aunt, mother-in-law, and great-grandmother.

She was my Grandma. I’m blessed for having her in my life so long. My world is richer and my heart more full because she was in it. You should have known her. She was quite remarkable.

18 Responses to “My Grandma”

  • Deb – I cannot believe I missed this … I am so sorry and feel your pain, reading your story reminded me so much of my spunky, strong, brave grandmother, who watches over me and guides me every day. She will always be with you, as you know, all my love and prayers for you, Amy
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    • Thanks so much, Amy. I think we're so lucky to have such great people in our lives and your Grandma and mine would probably have been friends, had they known each other :) I appreciate your message and it will lift me during this time, and there's a lot of peace knowing you feel yours watching over you. I can't wait to move past this part and get on to feeling that guiding force around me :) Hugs, love and prayers to you, too Amy :)

  • Teri Maco:

    Deb
    I am so so sorry to hear of her loss, but she lives on in you and Sam with spunk, love, and a big heart! Love to you!
    Teri

    • Teri, thanks so much for your kind words. I think she was a major influence on us and Sam and I definitely got her spunk! Grandma didn't like wimpy girls ;) Love you too.

  • Dennis Chighisola:

    Ya know what, Deb? Now I think I know why you're such an awesome lady. God bless your Grandma, and you, too.

    Dennis C

    • Dennis, that is so very sweet of you and thank you so much for the lift. She was remarkable, I was just lucky to get her as my Grandma :)

  • Naomimimi:

    if she was a part of making you who you are, then the world is a little less sparkly without her.

    • Mimi, you are so right and I can feel it. I'm hoping in time, her glimmer will be reignited in other ways. A friend of mine just suggested that I plant a Chrysler Imperial in my yard in her honor. I love the idea and will try to get some sweet peas going again. Do you think that carrying on some of her little habits will help? I hope so.

  • This is an absolutely lovely tribute to your grandmother. My thoughts are with you.

    And I LOVE the photo of her!!

    • Ahh, Cali, thank you so much. I'm glad you like that picture, too. We have so many of her, but that one just typified her spunk, leaning on a Ford Fairlane no less! Thanks for your notes here and in the emails. Your love and hugs mean much to this injured Dragon.

  • Jen Zelinsky:

    Deb,
    This is so beautiful. You captured our Grandma so elegantly. I bought some roses for her today, they are hot pink. I think of her everytime I look at them. They are beautiful as she was and will continue to be in our hearts forever.

    Thanks for putting this together. Let's get our trip planned ok?
    Love
    Jen

    • Thanks Jen, and isn't that sassy picture of her just awesome?! When I was writing this, I thought of you and when I selected the picture, I came across some others of you and I with our new Christmas bathrobes and Grandma there. So cute. We're so lucky to have had her and I love your idea of the roses – I think I'll do the same. And yes, in our hearts forever and a trip in May…we'll get it all planned out. Love you.

  • Ryan Zelinsky:

    Deb,

    I obviously didn't know Grandma Larson as long or as deeply as you, but you seem to have captured her essence. She was certainly proud of her strong, kind and talented granddaughters. You and Jen brought great joy to her life.

    Look forward to meeting you in person.

    Ryan Z

    • Thanks so much, Ryan. She thought an awful lot of you, too. Jen and I had a great role model with her and I seriously believe her spunk influenced our own approach in life. Likewise, looking forward to meeting you in person. Jen can't say enough good about you and from what I hear, you're quite the romantic dude: I heard about your proposal for marriage. Holy cow.

      Deb

  • Deb…..Beautifully written with so much love for her….thanks for sharing….very touching!

  • Bill Flentje:

    You were truly blessed by such wonderful woman. Your comments bring back memories of my grandmothers and my dad. Dad LOVED sweet peas.
    I hope you have a great and glorious blessed day.
    Bill Flentje
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    • Bill, aren't sweet peas the greatest?! I've not had nearly as much luck as she did with them, but their fragrance filled her home when they were blooming. I'm glad my post made you think of your grandmothers and your dad. And indeed, blessed we are to have such important people in our lives – and how lucky we are to share them with others. Thanks for your note, Bill.